10 Things you discover in the first year of marriage
Marriage is a step that brings a lot of news and learning. Surprises can be noticed early on. After all, daily living shows in the purest and most genuine way the person you really married is, without disguises or touch-ups.
And it is in the most trivial moments that you will find teachings for the coming years of unity. Check below some of them:
1. Having someone to come back to at the end of the day is comforting
After a bad day, one of the best things is to be able to count on the partner's embrace, making everything better. If the day was good, you'll also find a company to celebrate the victories at your side.
2. But learning how to spend time without the other is also
Just as you find out how good the partner company is, marriage also shows that it is possible and necessary that each one has some time for you. Whether it is watching a movie, reading a book or hanging out with friends to talk, you will realize that even though you live in the same house, each will continue with your own tastes and differences. Breathing deeply and giving in is fundamental in some moments
Each person is created in a way and, when getting married, ends up taking together their own habits, customs and manias for life to two. Of course this can give a lot of fighting and so learning to be flexible is key. You will understand that fighting for small things is exhausting and not worth it.
4. For who divides multiplies
Before marrying you may not have to worry so much about dividing, for example, food. After all, there was not necessarily anyone else to worry about. Marriage brings other priorities and you will realize that giving in and seeing the smile of the one you love is a way to multiply the couple's happiness.
And you find it important to have flexibility to deal with the other, but some truths are undisputed:
5. Who cooks do not wash the dishes
Or you can cook and clean everything together as well. The real lesson here is that to be married is to share, to form a partnership. And this lesson applies in all areas of the couple's life.
6. Bedside is universal and non-negotiable (anywhere in the world)
The first year of marriage is decisive for the couple to decide which side of the person in bed and, believe me, this will hardly change later. You can change your house, buy a new bed or stay in a hotel during the holidays, it does not matter, everyone will always have their right side at bedtime.
And there will always be those more thorny things:
7. Deciding where to spend Christmas can be a battle
This issue can become a source of contention not between the couple, but between the families involved. The mothers-in-law make sure their children are present at their house for supper, but now you're married and you need to know how to share that day without making anyone upset. The solution? Each couple needs to figure out their own way out of this situation.
8. Money is a delicate subject
As always, right? Divide the house bills, market, savings ... It's a lot to think about and consider at that time. Choose a quiet moment, let the two of you calm down, open a wine and think together how best to solve this.
9. And the fights will happen
When you did not live together and ended up fighting it was much easier to solve the problem, because each one was in his own house. Already in the married life, you can close in the room for some time, but will have to face and overcome the discussion in some way. Yes, marriage is for real, so think carefully before continuing with discussions that do not contribute to the evolution of the relationship.
10. Sleeping and waking up next to loved ones is the best thing in the world
At the time of dating, you sleep and wake up thinking of the other person. However, in married life, the person is always there and this presence brings a very good feeling. Remember this when you have years and years together. Do not forget to appreciate the small joys.
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