8 Things you should not say to someone with anxiety
Suffering from anxiety disorder affects all areas of life, including how you relate to others. However well-meaning it may be, a simple comment from someone who does not know the disorder can have a negative effect on those who live with the problem. To avoid this, we hear anxious people who list the phrases you should not say to someone with the problem, as it will only disrupt:
1. "Be calm"
If someone is going through an anxiety crisis, it's no use asking them to calm down, because it's not so simple, especially with someone asking repeatedly. It will take some time.
The best thing to do is to offer help in a practical way, guiding the person to meditate, to control the breath and accompany it to a place where it feels better. "I am also anxious"
There is a difference between the anxiety considered common, which a large part of the population has, and the anxiety disorder diagnosed. By claiming that you suffer the same as the other person without knowing exactly what they are going through, you may be trivializing the problem of someone who lives with that picture.
3. "That's silly, it's going to happen"
With these comments, you reduce what the other person feels, without even knowing what he's going through. It is best to encourage the person by demonstrating that you know that the disturbance is real but that it can be overcome.
4. "You can, face this fear"
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Of course encouraging is a way to help, but not always a positive placement can be welcome. When, for example, the person with anxiety can not perform a task, such as getting on an airplane, it will not do any good to list encouraging phrases. Show understanding and demonstrate that you will be there for when it is ready.
5. "Drink something to relax"
Dealing with an anxiety disorder can be a lot more complicated than that. People with this problem need medical help and often medication. The consumption of alcoholic beverages by patients under these conditions can have serious consequences in the future, such as worsening of the anxiety picture.
6. "Was it something I did?"
You have to accept that you have no control over what the other person feels. Seeing a loved one suffer causes many questions to arise about what we might have done to avoid the situation. But these thoughts will only bring frustration to both sides.
7. "Do not think about it"
The more you try not to think about something, the more that thought will dominate your mind. This is exactly how anxiety works, so asking someone anxious to think about anything else will not work. In fact, this is how anxiety will take over the person.
8. "Nothing bad is going to happen"