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Do not expect separation to change what is bad in the relationship

Do not expect separation to change what is bad in the relationship

Who has not heard of couples who separate and after a while, Do you go back to dating each other? For it is more common than we can imagine. Unfortunately people often let the problems reach almost unbearable levels to seek help and a solution. The fear or inability of dialogue between couples is the main cause of the conflicts that lead to separation.

It is sad, but only after one of them gives up fighting something that is not well, even having tried his own way to face the problem, and to divorce, is that the "chip falls" on the partner.

Frustrated attempts at conversations, in which one tries in vain to tell the other what is not good and what bothers him, but is not taken seriously as it should, they come to a fuse that seems only to be alleviated by separation.

From the pain of distance the non-conforming spouse, who did not hear the other's complaints, began to want to change, trying understand why, after all, they did not work together. Only then does he analyze himself - sometimes seek therapy to assist him in this internal search for answers - and begins to modify his behavior from the points that the other pointed out, but which before were simply regarded as charges (and who likes to I had the opportunity to witness couples who had separated, and from then on, they began a new life by restructuring the routine, the attitudes, widening the points of view and seeing the "ex" with other eyes, without resistance, without lack of patience, without the shield that we put before us when we do not want or can not see something, because it is difficult or painful to face the truth and make certain mistakes.

I must change my behavior just because the other is asking ?

No, I'm not saying that. I mean that marriage is the best way for people to get to know each other, because the other is often our mirror, giving us feedback of our attitudes, making us realize how we can bring about good or bad feelings in the next from what we do, and how we do it. Being open to this return of those who live with us and enjoying to look at ourselves, to review our attitudes, is a great chance to grow as a person.

Not always the look of the other may be right, but it is worth questioning from there. Why not welcome and discuss your point of view with him? If they are too discordant, then it is worth a greater investment in a couple or individual therapy so that they can resolve these differences before they destroy the relationship.

That is the point: many couples suffer terribly because one does not hear the that the other has to say, and closes in its absolute "truth", refusing to review something that bothers the spouse very much, for thinking it is so and should continue like this.

We can not forget that the relation is made of two people, and when something of one is bothering, one must speak about it and try to solve it. Quieting what is not going well will only result in a heap of grievances, which tend to grow over time, undermining the love that once united the couple.


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