Fear of being tried harasses those who have social phobia
All goes well until it is time to introduce yourself in public or to relate to a larger group of people
You start to sweat cold and the first reaction that comes to your mind is to escape from that situation, after all, another attempt is exhausted and you could not overcome this inexplicable fear that arrives without warning. For those who do not suffer from the problem, it is just another case of acute shyness, but for those who live the dilemma, it is an anguish that seems to have no end.
Social phobia is a syndrome characterized by excessive difficulty living in society and by the seemingly inexplicable fear of expressing itself in public.
From unknown origins, the disease affects children and adults and prevents the social development of people causing suffering and pain, which can manifest itself through physical reactions. "When they know they are going to have to expose themselves in public, some patients will react instinctively, gnawing at their fingernails, fuming uncontrollably or even biting their lips and nipping at each other. the coordinator of the Obsessive Compulsive Spectrum Disorder Project (Protoc), Christina Gonzalez, Unifesp
Persistent fear that?
Generally, those who have social phobia suffer from fear of the judgment of others and of their own self-criticism, which prevents them from at least trying to relate to someone. She thinks she does not do anything right and everyone realizes it just by looking at her, hence the panic in the face of public situations.
For Christina Gonzalez, one of the most striking symptoms of the syndrome is this persistent and marked fear of others they will think.
The first step in getting rid of the problem, or at least controlling it, is to end self-criticism: "We all make mistakes in life, that's part of our growth. with the next one in fear of making mistakes.Healthy relationships must be built even on the basis of tolerance for error and acceptance of people as they are.Without this, it is difficult to maintain affective bonds, "explains Christina.
Not everything looks like a threat
Contrary to popular opinion, people who suffer from social phobia do not always shy away from all situations involving exposure to the public.
There are cases, as Unifesp specialist explains, that the person has fear of certain situations, such as signing a check in public, for example, and more serious cases where even a brief dialogue with someone unknown at the bus stop causes panic. "Not every case is chronic and even when it is can manifest itself in a variety of ways. In general, fear is associated with public exposure, whether during a seminar, at a party or at work, but each one reacts in a way. The fact is that a person can only be afraid of a specific situation or of all, only she can say. "
One of the great problems of social phobia is that the person living in this situation knows that he has a problem and suffers from feeling that she is guilty of it.
The student Glaucia Torres knows well how it is to live with the fear of the other.To the 22 years, she left a job and several courses for not being able to relate to anyone and today , tries to get rid of the problem that for her does not have a definite cause: "I do not know why I was like this. I lived in the interior in a place where I used to hang out with people close by. When I arrived in São Paulo, I began to realize that every time I tried to talk to someone unknown or see me in busy places, I was very desperate and I thought everyone was looking at me, judging me. It was very painful, "explains the student." I spent years thinking that the problem was with me, that I was boring, had no competence to work and I decided to isolate myself. It was then that I realized that this 'inability' to relate to me made me suffer and I sought help, "he continues.According to psychiatrist Christina Gonzalez, the causes for the problem are still unknown, but there are indications that genetic inheritance may explain the occurrence of some cases: "We perceive that there is a higher incidence of the disease in people who have a history family, ie, relatives who have already developed some kind of disorder, but that is not a rule, "says Christina.
There are other factors that may explain the syndrome, but that depends a lot on one's life experience. It may be a childhood trauma, a loss, a sudden change or even an unknown cause.
Behavioral Psychology x Psychologists
When the subject is the appropriate treatment for the syndrome, the psychiatrist of the wrong choice. According to her, the best option is behavioral therapy that should involve associated therapy sessions and, depending on the case, indication of medications that control anxiety: "Behavioral therapy has proven results. Many patients give up treating themselves because they have been disillusioned. with the wrong therapy and end up getting much worse thinking that their case is so serious that even the doctors can not solve it and it's not like that, "the psychiatrist says." In general, a good treatment occurs on two fronts: the therapy and the other with medicines, however, this may vary according to each case.It is ideal to seek a psychiatrist and follow the treatment until the end.Unfortunately, there is no cure for the problem, but if the patient devotes himself, he can recover the quality of life and be happy. "
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing ) One of the most modern techniques in psychological treatment. It was created in the 80's by the American and psychologist Francine Shapiro. Through eye movements and specific bilateral stimuli (of the cerebral hemispheres) there is a mental desensitization and reprogramming (reprocessing).
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