Learn how to cope with the pre-vestibular stress period

Stress is a normal reaction for people of all ages. The cause is the instinct of the body to protect itself from an emotional or physical pressure, of extreme danger. Among the many monsters faced in adolescence (love, friendship, doubt, choice, change), the vestibular is the most feared of all. In this period of preparation, there are few cases in which school and family identify aggressive, distressed or depressed students with some mood or sleep disturbance. "In addition to the requirement to make the professional choice so early, there is pressure from parents, school, competition in and out of school, "explains behavioral psychologist Sofia Karnakis. Expectation and ambition for social and financial success are also common. After all, "which group will I belong to?" This responsibility may also be overvalued by parental anxiety or expectation of the child in relation to the family's acceptance. This is a time that begins to form an identity.

Organization is key to avoiding stress. Some young people still choose the profession following an old and sometimes frustrated desire of their parents. In this case, the anguish may be greater because the adolescent gradually realizes that he has no vocation for it, but must take the dream of the other forward.

The reasons for this behavior, for this need of approval and pride of the family, are many. "It can be because of a low self-esteem and then he ends up sacrificing something that he likes very much, or even to get attention," says the psychologist. She points out that parents' lack of time can make young people repress and close down.

Sleep is very important for content absorption, memory development and learning

Reasons to stress

Adolescence is already a stressful phase in nature. Hormonal turbulence, by itself, causes sleep, hunger, and many bodily changes. The moment is also of awakening to sexual interests and identity, which cause internal and external conflicts. You must be calm at this time. "Identifying, managing and building a new inner standard to discern what is happening outside," argues physician and psychotherapist Juliana Cardoso Holcman. For her, psychological, emotional and physiological are vulnerable to stress in a mixture of fear, struggle and flight.

Juliana believes that by adopting a new way of life, "it is possible to awaken the strength that is inherent in us, driving force of healing, and that we all have. " In this case, body awareness and healthy habits, both of food and rest, are essential. Sleep is very important for the absorption of content, development of memory and learning.
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According to Juliana, in a light sleep, there is about 10% of use and it will be satisfactory when it is relaxing, with no traces of worry. retention of knowledge in memory processes, while in a quiet the percentage reaches 40%. Habits like sleeping with the connected television also undermine the main objective of this moment, which is to recharge the battery. In the presence of light, the production of melatonin (a neurohormone that regulates sleep) is blocked, since the secretion of this substance is almost exclusively determined by photosensitive structures, especially at night.

How to relieve stress

In the pre-college year, organization is fundamental. It is necessary to determine the schedule of study, practice of physical activity and also relaxation. Sport is essential to oxygenate the body, relieve tension and discharge energy, as well as a balanced and healthy diet and some moment of fun among friends. Sofia also indicates therapeutic follow-up during this period: "it facilitates self-knowledge and gives security for professional choice," he says.Another very important detail is the family's unconditional support, enlightened by a sincere conversation between parents and children, to see together which option the teen wants to do and that can be for life. According to the psychologist, the real support is not just words of encouragement, but the promotion of help and attitudes that motivate the job.

It is common at this stage for adolescents to stop trusting their parents in the face of so many unfulfilled promises. In this sense, it is necessary to partner and plan reasonable goals for the participation of the whole family, so that they face the year together. That's why, even advocating the idea of ​​reinforcement as something that rewards you for an initiative, Sofia does not advise you to reward expensive gifts at the end of the journey. "Reinforcement needs to be dosed as a way to motivate the student throughout the process. It is not to be like a bargaining chip, it is to make the year quieter, less stressful," he adds.

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