Learning to listen to the soul increases health and well-being
I just read a book I'd like to recommend to everyone who likes to dig deeper into personal issues: "The Immoral Soul," by Nilton Bonder. Compulsory reading for those who are questioning their relationships, who do not know what to do when they recognize themselves in a marriage that is worn and unpleasant.
The book talks about the betrayal of our Soul, how much we did not hear it and chose to stay in the "correct" in detriment of the "good" for our self. "There are marriages that, although apparently conducted within fidelity norms, already outline betrayal movements.These are determinants for later infidelity.It is understood by infidelity both the breaking of commitments and the maintenance of the same of destructive form. "
In a marriage where personal growth happens unilaterally, fatally at some point some imbalance will appear
How many of us remain in visibly worn relationships, where there is a big imbalance between the spouses, there is no intimacy and exchange , and do not we have the courage to take the decisive step to regain our essence? In these cases, the act of transgression is fundamental: "Not meeting oneself is in the inability to bear the transgression. Life according to the manual, which tells each of us what to do, is insufficient to respond that is, we are stuck with what we think society expects of us, what others will think, when we look at others, and forget to listen to who else would make sense: ourselves, our desires and needs, our dreams. The fear of the judgment of others is a paralyzing factor of actions considered risky because they are unknown, or simply new, that are in contradiction with the one determined by the past. The present does not satisfy me any more, but in the past I have committed myself to it, so I can not change my mind halfway.
We all came across some places that once were good and helped us grow , to develop, but with the passage of time have become narrow, tight and limiting. They imprison our being without our realizing it, the result of the fear of venturing into new places and liberating experiences.
To face the consequences of a separation is not always easy. We take into account the people involved besides the couple: children, relatives, friends, not counting work, family routine, financial situation, housing, bills. How many worries! And everything seems insurmountable, no possible alternatives to these problems are envisaged, it seems that we will lose everything. It will be? Do not we imagine a series of obstacles that are designed to defend us from the fear of facing our real need, from a decision based on our deepest selves?
People change over time, grow, mature, change their needs , your dreams. In a marriage where this growth happens unilaterally, or if each goes to a completely different side of the other, inevitably at some point this imbalance will appear, and something must be done to restore harmony. And at that point, either you face the issue and go deep in to resolve it, requiring a large personal investment from both parties to stay together, or separate, and each one follows his or her life in the best possible way. > One last quote, which I think it is important to put in my article, just to make you want to read everything else: "How many marriages are a deep betrayal of the promise of seeking a life of mutual affective enrichment? if they have exhausted all possible measures to heal the relationship, it is a form of betrayal of the soul that is far more serious than a possible adultery, a betrayal of the body, and the past and the commitment of the past. a compromise with the past that obstructs the present and the future.It may be an option, but it is idolatrous. "
Whoever does not perceive the existence of one's own soul certainly loses the unique and absolutely transforming experience of the encounter with another soul, who may be out there somewhere waiting for the appropriate moment for this encounter. And when it happens ... it's indescribable!
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