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Love failure can only be in our minds

Love failure can only be in our minds

"We do not see things as they are, but as we are" , who wrote this was Anaïs Nin, back in the 1950s. last century. Anaïs Nin is famous for her erotic literature, she is the author of Delta of Venus, Little Birds and a Spy in the House of Love.

What impresses me most in her texts is the absurd intensity, a delivery that I always found myself had not and, above all, the shamelessness in assuming his immorality. This, however, is not the best facet of Anaïs Nin. What she has the best, I believe, is the ability to transform the abyssal puzzles between man and woman in what is simpler and primary: they were made for each other, they are carnal, they are lovers.

Since I understand myself by people I read and hear men and women labels, rational and scientific interpretations of the differences between male and female. One is like that, the other is roasted. One came from Mars, the other from Venus. One has too much hormones, the other has PMS. Man is a bastard, woman is a sufferer. With so much time spent on theories, I wonder what time it takes to go there, in fact, and prove everything that is said.

You can call me romantic and I really am, but I believe, really, that we are so prepared to go wrong that we do everything to not succeed, because if it works out, what are we going to do? No one ever taught! Self-help books are full of encouraging phrases, to be used AFTER failure, for success on the 35th attempt. And, look, I'm going to say something that, if I had known before, I would have been happier earlier: with quiet, real steps, given one at a time, without so much guessing on the spot, it is possible to learn by hitting. of our writer above, the last realization that "love never dies of natural death." He dies because we do not know how to renew his source. dies of exhaustion, devastation, lack of brightness "

. Is not that what we do with ourselves? We are losing the sparkle, neglecting to care, and when the look is already too much to be enchanted, we realize, not without delay, what we could have done, back there, to live full of wonder. Every time I I get caught up in this haste, the mess, the clock, the pollution and the myopia, I stop a little, I go to look at other things, to exercise the heart muscle in another way. I remember the sweetest and most concentrated voice, the slower breathing, the other that hears me, the love that I feel, which is important, more important than anything. There is an excerpt from Henry and June - From The Inner Diary of Anaïs Nin, which I adore, which translates into a naked feeling, revealed without shame and without pride, almost a dependency (if this word were not so confused with dismay):

"I imagined for a moment a world without Henry. that in the day that I lose Henry, I will kill my vulnerability, my capacity for true love, my feelings, with the most frenetic debauchery.After Henry I do not want any more love ... What a deep need of him.When I am in his arms things can look right.After an hour with him, I can continue my day, doing things I do not want to do, seeing people that do not interest me. "

Without theorizing so much about the feminine and masculine natures and exercising to know the individuals , the relationships p erdem insufficiency and gain a seasoning called curiosity. Discovering the other, instead of labeling it, keeps the interest, the will, the beauty of those who live with us. And ours too. We are unique. Uniform does not match the soul.


Caring is able to relieve pain from rejection, says research

Caring is able to relieve pain from rejection, says research

When life gives us a yellow smile, a show of affection has the power to transform our day. It is enough to receive a loving embrace or a word of affection to calm down and move on. A group of scientists devoted themselves to studying how affection acts in our body and found that the gentle touch is able to calm the effects of social exclusion.

(Well-being)

Learn to differentiate hunger from the urge to eat

Learn to differentiate hunger from the urge to eat

Have you ever heard that well-known Titans song? Are you thirsty for what? Do you have what hunger? (...) we do not just want to eat, we want to eat and we want to make love. We do not just want to eat, we want pleasure to relieve the pain ..., really often what hides behind a binge eating and a constant hunger sensation, is not only an alert that our stomach is empty As the music says, for most people, food serves to alleviate emotional pain, appease need, discount traffic anger, parents, husband, girlfriend and so on.

(Well-being)