Feminine rivalry: why is this stereotype still so vivid among women?
Nesta week, a very emblematic scene was aired in the novel "A Força do Querer" by Rede Globo. In it, the characters Irene (Débora Falabella), the lover of the story, Joyce (Maria Fernanda Cândido), the wife, and Ritinha (Isis Valverde), who is Joyce's daughter-in-law, docked in a bathroom because of Eugenio (Dan Stulbach ), the husband in question, who was not even present. This nucleus provided the scene of the highest audience of this novel until today and, considering that this creation of the author Glória Perez has been the most popular novel of the last four years, the result was very significant for the transmitter. The problem is that this plot of women fighting each other and competing is not restricted to fiction.
Psychologist Raquel Baldo explains that historically this concept starts from a heroic idea, as if the beating character was "defending" the values of a threat. But is the woman seen as an opponent really a threat that needs to be fought, or is it really the ideas that have made us believe that what really needs to be deconstructed? The discussion of this subject is complex and we are far from a resolute answer. But thinking about it is already a beginning.
Marriage was a profession
It is now commonplace to see women occupy the job market, gaining prominent positions within companies, and making decisions about what is best for their lives. However, there is still much to be achieved and unfortunately it is not all women who have access to a college and a job.
For a long time, women's participation in society was restricted to marriage and care children. It is worth mentioning that it is not a problem for a woman to dedicate herself to these activities. The problem is that for a long time this was the only option for women in society.
"So, marriage was the main resource for a woman's life, she had the objective of having a husband, being a wife, It was understandable to defend a marriage in the tapas, because if she did not have her husband she would not be nobody. Therefore, before the woman was subject and had to be in a desperate role to guarantee a place in the society, even if it "Since the 1970s, with the growth of the national economy, women started to occupy more jobs, according to the book" Women and Work: Discrimination and Barriers in the Labor Market. " The rivalry between women is old and begins to be perpetuated even in childhood. "This is still very common. Boys always walk in groups, they include more people, but the most common thing is to see the girls walk in pairs, at most trios. threatening. " You'll notice the body better, the hair better, it's comments made very often, "she explains. p>
Even today, with feminist discourse taking its toll, these comments still continue to occupy women's wheels. "You see it in comments among women. It's a fantasy of empowerment, but the woman thinks she's more than the other, and that's because she might still carry the idea that she needs to get a husband, even by repeating that she wants to be single, "analyzes Rachel. "The woman still has a long way to go, the sight of the enemy is very frequent."
Symptoms of a not so distant past
The fact that women often look at themselves as enemies is very much linked to that they learned that it was right. For example, the cult of aesthetics, the obligation to always be tidy, the need to follow the booklet of marriage and children. "It's almost a genetic burden of how good they have to be in order to secure themselves in society," says the psychologist.It can be said, then, that the modern woman bears the symptoms of the generations gone by. "We are living today some neuras, some insecurities that perhaps are not ours, they are of previous structures that we arc until today", explains.
Solution in the dialogue
One of the most important steps for that scenario to transform and for that in the future women no longer see themselves as rivals is in dialogue. "It seems that we are in the way, but we have to talk, to continue talking, to expose the thoughts, the possibilities that a scene of soap opera or cinema generates.These are many concepts that we live and speak, but deep down we do not realize, we reproduce only because "When we talk about what we think, what we feel about things, what we see, we give the opportunity to restructure the feminine, and we close some of those things," says the psychologist. inheritances, which we are still going to carry, but which can become something historical that will no longer interfere with our actions in the future. "
And in order to dialogue, those involved do not always have to agree. Listening to contrary opinions enriches the debate and helps build this new phase of women. "It's important to listen to those who agree with a macho vision, who see themselves in scenes of hatred among women. These values are something to be considered and it is necessary to find this partnership between the woman of the past and the woman of today," Raquel concludes.
There are those who prefer them to the family, after all they have been handpicked. Your friends know secrets, participate in important moments and do not bother when plans fail. "The understanding that exists in this type of relationship is deep and marked by many discoveries and set, different from what happens in the family environment where the positions have been marked since always," says psychologist Marina Vasconcellos, a specialist of My Life .
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