Overcoming shyness helps increase self-esteem
Shyness is an innate feeling of the human being. From infancy to adulthood - and even into old age - she does not choose the moment to appear. Whether it's a birthday party, a stage before an audience, or a flirting approach, it comes out overwhelmingly and paralyzing. His definition is a fear and an exaggerated fear to expose himself and consequently receive some kind of judgment. "Those who suffer from shyness, be it introspective or the kind that even expose themselves to conceal the real sensation of fear, have a great tendency to overestimate small slips.Timids have a need to pass a positive image of themselves all the time" , says psychologist Renata Placido, of São Paulo.
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According to the professional, the inhibition in doing something considered mundane, how to relate, flirting and expressing what you feel is linked to the feeling of competence. "The negative perception of what we believe to be, that is, our self-image, can distort reality, the consequence of which is the withdrawal of feelings and attitudes."
Understand the connection between shyness and self-esteem
A shy person overestimates risks - real or imagined. Every new situation is scary. The concern to pass a good image suppresses the old maxim that "to err is human," explains Renata. "There is an excessive fear of appearing ridiculous or ridiculed." This is a relation, in large part, related to the self-questioning of their competence, "he said.
The need to feel loved and loved is developed even in the early years of life, as well as feelings of security and self-confidence. According to the psychologist, this set of feelings are the basis for the development of self-esteem. If it is in balance, the ease of gaining and receiving affection, of forgiving, of having an understanding of frustrations is greater. "Being aware of your limitations and frailties is a major step toward self-awareness.Whoever has low self-esteem, like the timid majority, does not naturally deal with rejection and frustration.Â Basically they regard it as personal rather than as a situation that should be relieved, "explains Renata.
Timidity boosts discomfort and consequently detonates self-esteem. Concern about people's assessment, lack of courage to take risks, and even their own desires, makes the timid misinterpret situations in the wrong and threatening ways. "They lose their autonomy and often need to be supported by something or someone to feel safe," he says.
According to psychologist Renata Placido, no longer being shy instantly is practically impossible. The first step is to face small challenges of exposure.
If you impose, sustain opinions, act with autonomy and less dependence, and above all, do not stop doing something out of fear. "The idea is to try to act with more confidence and without unjustified charges," he concludes.
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