Overprotective parents increase child's chances of bullying
Parents may think that excessive childcare to keep them safe from problems can avoid complications at school, but a new study reveals that the effect is actually the opposite: children of overprotective parents are more likely to be victims of bullying. The work was done by researchers at the University of Warwick in England and is published in the April 25 issue of Child Abuse & Neglect . An analysis of 70 studies including over 200,000 children and the behavior of their parents. Scientists found that children of overprotective parents were the easiest targets for bullying. The analysis also found that negligent or severe paternity was associated with a moderate increase in the risk of the child being a bully - that is, bullying other children - and a small increase in the risk of being bullied. According to the authors, children with overprotective parents may not develop qualities such as autonomy and self-assertion, and are therefore easy targets for bullying. the aggressors. Lack of caring and excessive charges, on the other hand, can make the child colder and prone to discount their anxieties on other children. According to the authors, the parents considered "in the measure" allow children to have some conflicts with their peers to learn how to solve them, instead of intervening all the time.
Learn to identify and combat bullying in schools
According to the NGO "Learn Without Fear" Fear), 350 million children and young people are victims of bullying annually around the world. The pediatrician and one of the authors of the book "Say no to Bullying", Aramis Lopes Neto, points out that the practice can not be seen as a natural game or provocation among children and adolescents and deserves attention to be prevented and fought. Learn what measures are needed to reduce the incidence of this type of behavior.
Types of bullying
There are several ways to express bullying. The practice can occur directly, when the aggression is made against its target by means of nicknames, group exclusion, moral or physical aggression. Bullying can also be indirect, involving theft, gossip, and even cyberbullying, the one that uses the internet, cell phones and other means of the digital world to publicize offenses - sites slandering victims, videos disseminated with embarrassing situations, and gossip circulating around network at an impressive speed. In addition, teasing can begin in person and evolve into the virtual environment.
Among victims, low self-esteem, suicidal thoughts, and difficulty in relating lovingly and professionally are common.
Recognize an aggressor
Aggressors are often popular figures at school, they are aggressive. They are aggressive, aggressive, aggressive toward adulthood at home and / or at work, unable to establish long relationships or regularity at work. with colleagues, teachers, parents, and usually bring with them a group of followers. "They need these people who support them and submit to them and, therefore, the responsibility for aggression is divided," says Aramis Neto.
Recognize the victims
Unlike the aggressors, the victims generally have (or develop) low self-esteem, isolate themselves from the group and have few friends. The victims also have some physical characteristics that make them targets, such as thinness, excess weight, shyness, or other accentuated characteristic. "In addition, the victims show signs of depression, anxiety and poor school performance," explains the pediatrician.What is the role of school and family in combating bullying?
For the Aramis pediatrician, some of the key measures to be taken in schools include:
1 - Admitting that bullying exists in all schools. 2- To practice actions that can reduce the incidence of aggressions with mobilization of the whole school community: teachers, coordinators, parents and students.
3- Promote the commitment work to reduce bullying from the premise: "This school does not will more tolerate bullying. "
4- Each group or series building their way of coexisting with bullying, admitting what is acceptable and what is not.
5- Work on friendship, solidarity, nonviolence and love with group activities.
The role of the family
The family should value the dialogue. Parents should be aware of whether their child has friends, knows of people who are being bullied, or is bullied at school. The function of the family is to allow the child to expose their suffering. The child is often afraid to talk to parents because they do not want to expose themselves and think that parents will not value their feelings. "In the case of aggressors, the family must be able to correct them so that they do not continue the aggression at school, not for fear of being punished, but for the traditional method of open dialogue and family education, which is indispensable to any individual which lives collectively and respectfully, "says psychologist Rita Romaro.
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