Parents should encourage children to communicate with known adults
Greeting people can be a great challenge for children and many are considered shy as justification for this difficulty. Shyness is a starting point, but not an immutable condition. Some children may even have this more embarrassed posture, but it is too important for adults to help at that time. This help comes first by understanding that this is just another challenge to be overcome.
Say hello, say goodbye, say "good morning" and "good afternoon", say "please" and "thank you". "... These are postures of education and so are also learned. I see that many times an initial difficulty becomes more crystallized, since adults, in a beautiful intention to respect what the child presents, withdraw from this important educational posture in early childhood. It is necessary to insist, to go together, not to speak for it, but to support this attitude, to do together, to teach, to learn the best way to carry out such an important attitude. The child who goes through this phase and acquires this learning is free, light and free to live these meetings and farewells in a natural way.
I remember as it was yesterday when my father asked me to greet one of his friends after playing a lot of tennis matches, when everyone was at the club table we attended. It was boring, but it was acquired, learned education. My understanding was very clear, I need to greet everyone, that's how it works.
This North works for children as safety and fulfilling this learning brings to the child the certainty that the world is a place of coexistence, of living with , of the look in the eyes, in which we embrace, kiss, thank and respect.
Daniella de Faria (psychologist) - Teaching children
So, just as we teach to eat, to take a shower, to dress, rules with TV , we teach with our example and orientation the fellowship with the neighbor, be it very near or a little more distant. This is a gradual teaching that must happen from very young children, in the intention, in the will to approach and consider the other.
When this behavior is already crystallized, or even seen as shyness, it makes everything even more complex . It is time to return to this direction and show the child that he can, that he can and that this movement is natural and very quiet. Positioning children with love and commitment makes this happen and believe me, the one who feels the most relief is the child who at each encounter releases a huge tension before accumulated. What was very complicated becomes simple and natural. This is how it works, and the children who receive this guidance absorb that idea and create beautiful demeanor in that direction. Therefore, every day is a day to educate our little ones, after all everything is learned, everything is taught.
The arrival of a baby causes commotion in the family. There are those who come from far away just to meet newborns. Despite the cuteness that makes us want to pick up on the lap, tighten and kiss, the children who have just been born do not yet have a immune system so prepared. And this calls for basic care by everyone who visits, no matter the proximity or degree of kinship.
It is amazing to stop and think about how much we are an example to our children 24 hours a day. Parents are the child's first behavioral reference, so it is common for them to copy not only talking and walking, but also attitudes and habits of life. This can make us terrified, or even robotic trying to control this or that other example, but the idea is not this.