Patience or complacency?
I have always heard that the greatest virtue of life is patience. It may even be, if not confused with complacency, mother of all laziness and of all postponement that we make.
Perhaps because of this confusion, with each passing day I am convinced more that nothing should be postponed, absolutely nothing .
Not a conversation, not a hug, not a job, call, request, effort, walk, cry or smile. I arrived at a point in my life that postponing means running the risk of seeing a situation out of control, serious, careless, perhaps irreversible.
Since I have postponed much in the past, I know what I am talking about. I was thinking yesterday about the number of misfits whose parents are good people and nobody knows how it all began.
"In all situations it is patience, but never complacency."
Certainly, there showing off his weird personality, or it was only widening his limits, while father and mother were too lazy to correct, thinking perhaps that the school would give way, or life itself.
A duty is deferred and what is left over it is a void full of whining. This is for anything in life: for the choking car and the people who wait for it to take time to get it repaired; for that little pain in the kidneys that had seen a huge stone because we did not go to look first; for the relationship that could certainly be very happy and rich if it were not for the fear of talking.
In all situations it is patience. In all of them, there must be patience. But, never, never, complacency. Because when things break out and conflict is in place, it is very difficult to have the good sense that the situation demands.
At the height of the crisis arising from a lazy postponement, what remains is usually the definitive break, the absurd wear and tear , tiredness, resentment.
Relationships can be eternal and happy, I believe in it. Therefore, my daily training has been to look, to realize what is important, to speak, to listen, to ponder and to act. Nothing that is vital should be put at risk because of the inability to deal with the difficulty.
If I do not know what to do, or how to do, not even what happens right, I still say, "I do not know , helps me understand, helps me solve. "
Having truth in life has helped me to break through a mountain of addictions, including laziness, which I thought until another day was patience. It was nothing, it was pure complacency.
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