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See 6 situations in relationships considered sexist

See 6 situations in relationships considered sexist

In my last article, I talked about how some situations are sexist in our day to day life and I explained why they represent a machismo. Unfortunately, this kind of difference is also reflected in relationships. Here are some of the following situations and understand better:

Requiring and expecting women to have a "perfect body"

This thinking is a macho culture, the man who demands, snakes, seeks, comments, sees, and selects the woman based on her body, because in this idea the woman is not seen or understood by who she is, she is not a being or a person, but only an object, a piece of something that serves to be desired and devoured, with to fulfill the pleasures and fantasies of men.

The same goes for women who think so. Many believe that they need to have a "perfect" body (according to each concept) in order to arouse men's looks and interests. In this, they end up giving up their essence as a human being and all their inner contents of life, which are very valuable.

It is worth mentioning that this does not mean that a woman can not want to dress up, to look beautiful and with the body she wants . There is a clear line separating these concepts: if the woman does this for herself and for her own sake, it is not machismo, just as a man finds a woman who is very beautiful and attractive for her body is not machismo either. Machismo happens when the woman becomes only her body and uses it as an offer for a man to love or desire and the same for the man who only sees a body or piece of it and evaluates a woman only for this aspect. Making a Difference Between "Woman to Pick" and "Woman to Marry"

Classifying women among the categories to pick up and marry is rather a macho act and thought and it carries a huge taboo. Still supported by the archaic idea that woman in marriage must follow such stereotype, that of serving, caring and existing to guarantee husband and family, soon has to be a woman who should not or can not express or even have great desires, both sexual as of life.

This is because the woman who has access and knowledge to her own desire and pleasure tends not to understand or even not want a marriage whose purpose is to serve her husband and her home. On the contrary, it will require their rights and show that the duties fit the couple equally.

Men who seek women to serve them often classify women into "the one who is to enjoy" and "the one who is to marry "and thus they demonstrate through their thoughts and attitudes that see the woman as an object or toy for their pleasure only, both that amuses and gives pleasure to him and that which serves and takes care of him. put on and see yourself this way. They are taught and prepared from girls by their parents and schools about what it is to be a good girl: how should you sit, talk, dress so that one day a boy wants to date her and make him a good boy! They do not learn that they are special, beautiful, fun and talented for who they are, for their personality and particularities. On the contrary, they grow up trying to enter and find a pattern that is told to them from an early age and so they end up so often choosing to serve a man, because in their unconscious it is recorded that to be happy a man must say that she is good or to choose.

To think that only a woman should take care of her children and the house

Let's remember that until recently the domestic tasks were obligatory and necessarily feminine functions. A woman learned these tasks from an early age, and the better she performed them, the better it would be for society. On the other hand, men were born and grew up understanding that these domestic tasks should not be their preoccupations; rather, they should be "hunting": to earn money, to live socially and politically. So do not worry about anything at all.

Even today, even with women being in the labor market as much as men, it is understood that the man who performs some domestic task is a differential in society. This is because, despite the fact that women work as much as men and have the same responsibility to support their families, the taboo of which household and household chores is female exclusivity still holds.

Many women are even responsible for this because they argue that only they have the proper way and feel to take care of the house and children, that the men know nothing. Many men think so too, and do not have to struggle to sharpen their skills with such tasks, believe, learn, and have feminine, as well as masculine, confirmation that these tasks are not for them.

So when people say or think a man is good because he helps in something at home or with his children, they are actually saying that woman should be thankful for having someone who agrees to do a task that is yours. This concept of "help" sounds good, but it actually reinforces the idea that domestic chores and family chores are female exclusives, not the couple. To use words helps or participates in the tasks is macho, because it says together that it is an activity of the woman and that we still have to thank and recognize that man as a differential, praise him.

The word that perhaps best means equality, the division. Yes division, men and women who share tasks, skills and talents, according to the needs of their lives together, after all is a choice of both sides and soon the interest in the good result should also be of both. a woman knows how to cook, then she's ready to marry

This phrase that is often used with a playful tone, even among women, also comes from the historical culture that a woman had to be prepared to marry someday.

So we can understand that this phrase, quoted above, is rather a macho and that rescues and keeps present, still today, the machismo around. To use it, even if jokingly, is to reinforce that the woman somehow has her value recognized by her efficiency in the kitchen and not by who she is, that is, that a guy will want to marry her, for food who knows how to do, than by who she is in herself. It is a phrase and a joke that devalues ​​the feminine gender.

Man insist on paying the bill, expecting sex in exchange

Perhaps it does not act a single analysis or answer in this case. If a man goes out with a woman and offers certain care for the sole purpose of having sex, it does not necessarily mean machismo, but also that he likes to go out to have sex with people and invests that satisfaction for him. The woman who goes out with this man because she also likes certain care, but is willing to have free and casual sex, can end up doing very well in this case, since both sides tend to be attended to and do not need to establish any relationship other than interest sexual.

Now when a man charges the sex of the woman he has been conquering, for example taking her to dinner, implying that she owes it to him or when the woman obliges herself to have sex with the man who gives her gifts and takes her to dinner, then we have a macho context. For both men and women summarize their roles in male and female stereotypes, reinforcing the role of each in the relationship. The man to pay and the woman to serve him.

This is a macho situation that is bad not only for women, but for men as well, who find themselves trapped in concepts and compulsions and are charged by women even to get going out or having a chance with them, you have to pay, invest, make a scene. For both men and women, this can be a highly disrespectful situation because no one sees the other person there, but only the body or money.Charging women for not being in a relationship or not having children yet

The machismo here depends on the situation. Despite many cultural and social changes around the subject of marriage and no longer necessarily need to marry or be married as a social obligation nowadays, being with someone (whether dating or getting married) is almost always a charge for both men and women , mainly family and intimate people, who care about seeing a single person. This concern carries a historical heritage that to be happy it was necessary to comply with rules of life and one of them was to be married and have children.

Because of a sexist social idea the woman ends up hearing or being charged more than a man, for being single or for not wanting a child (still or never). It is a historical conflict installed in the current period, because despite all the freedom of choice achieved, we are still charged in the old ways: wife and mother, to fulfill their feminine function, even knowing or learning that nowadays women are women before of everything and need not be wives and mother to be good, happy or successful.


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