Elder counts 5 lessons to grow old without regrets

The American writer Karl A Pillemer knew the history of 2,000 elderly people over 10 years, trying to understand the secret of good aging. In addition, to inspire others to live a life that they can be proud of up front, he gathered five lessons from the following question: "What can younger people do now to avoid regrets when they reach their age? ". See below the result:

1. Choose your partner well

The elderly agree on one thing: this is the most important decision a human being makes. However, looking back over your own experience, your view is that we are not careful enough. About marriage, they say some people act on impulse. Their advice is to stop, look and listen. Ask yourself about the decision and then ask yourself again.

According to their testimony, using enough time to meet someone before marriage can avoid years or even decades of difficulties as life goes on. So if you are a young man who is planning on embarking on a first marriage or someone in the middle ages thinking about the "second time", they recommend that you take the time to think it through.

2. Always Be Honest

The two thousand elderly Americans who contributed to Pillemer's study offered this recipe to live without regret so unanimously that this advice is worth a minute of their attention. To avoid remorse for the future life, a word must be followed: honesty.

For people over 70, honesty is a core value. When asked how to avoid repentance, most answered the following: "Always be honest"; "Honesty;" "Tell the truth and do not cheat." This is also a practical lesson to avoid the lamentation of many of them, who said they had to learn the hard way.

3. Travel more

Based on the studies, the researcher guarantees one thing: if you do not do this now, you will wish you had known more places. The message from the elderly to the younger people regarding the trip is to do it as soon as possible. And for those who are wondering about how to pay for so many trips, the older ones say that traveling is so rewarding, that it should prevail over other things that younger people usually spend money.

4. Worry less

Another lesson from the elderly to avoid regret is to stop worrying. The elderly deeply regret wasting time worrying about things that never happened. So, looking back, they take a radical view of worry. For them, worry is wasting life.

5. Say it all at the time

If you have something to say to someone, do it before it's too late. Older people emphasize this lesson for two reasons: some because they were grateful for what they wanted while there was still time and others for regret that they had not.

For some regrets, chances are there for second chances. Objectives not attained, such as not having studied enough or not having traveled enough, for example, can be remedied until the end of life. Leave unsaid critical things, however, like asking for forgiveness or saying a "I love you", can not be changed after the person is gone. Here is where the simplest action - a conversation - is a great repentance prevention strategy.

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Who thinks that only the bride and groom are subject to the rules and protocols of a marriage is very much mistaken. The guests should also be careful not to be vexed and become the party monkey. Let's remember a few? A good guide to follow when deciding who can attend the ceremony, that is, who is actually being invited is the text of the invitation.

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